Have you or your man ever lied to each other?

Umm NO. Not telling you something that he KNOWS you would want to know, is a lie by omission.

About something serious? No. A white lie to make him feel better about something? Sure. But never about anything important or serious. Anyone who says they've never, ever lied to their partner about anything is not being truthful. We all tell white lies, especially if it's to spare their feelings about something minuscule. But I don't lie about anything serious, important, or anything that would start a fight. And as far as I'm aware, he gives me the same courtesy.

Putting that kind of restrictions on someone is toxic and controlling. I don’t think you should tell him what he can and can’t do. And if he wants to smoke weed maybe you shouldn’t be together if it is something you can’t deal with in your relationship. He didn’t tell you because he knows how you feel about it. All of this is a recipe for disaster.

You can’t control him. Who cares that YOU don’t like the idea of smoking weed lol it’s not up to you. Don’t be THAT toxic girlfriend. You don’t want him to really start lying and hiding stuff from you. Lighten up.

I mean keeping something from your partner even though you haven’t said anything or gave hint towards anything is still lying. But smoking weed is really not that big of a deal I understand you don’t like it (i don’t like it as well) but I don’t see a problem in him smoking weed as long as he’s not coming in late at night high on his ass doing stupid shit, disrupting the household or smoking inside the house. I understand your point! I don’t like weed it’s disgusting to me I’ve smoked It many times and It does nothing for me. But I don’t necessarily think he has to tell you every time he smokes it unless something major happens then yeah definitely need to know about It.

He’s still lied in my opinion.

I don't think that's a lie, I think he just decided to try weed, when previously perhaps he thought that wouldn't be something he was interested in. Although, he probably should have eventually told you. But it literally happened the night before, I don't really think it counts as dishonesty when he didn't even have time to tell you or think about telling you. It's hard to say if he would have hid it or been dishonest, or if he'd have decided to tell you. Regardless, you know now. And it doesn't sound like he told his friends not to tell you, so no intent to hide it from you was voiced. I don't lie often, I hate lying. I hate being lied to. My boyfriend has not told me some things right away, but only because he didn't think to tell me or something, he wasn't trying to hide things, he made an effort to be honest & still does if he realizes there's something I should know about. So, as far as I know, my boyfriend hasn't lied. He never has tried to hide something from me, seemingly. As far as me, I am very honest with him almost all the time, I like to tell him about things. But!!! Yes, I lied about one thing in the very beginning. I lied about how I found out what his name was before we started talking. I learned his name in a really unconventional way and didn't want to seem like a stalker 🙃 I feel bad for not telling him... he think I read his name tag, but whenever I saw him with it, it was too far away to read. I saw him around, we exchanged a few words, but we never properly introduced each other, but I found out his name & found him online. I'm going to tell him now that we've been dating so long. About the difficult and important things, I've been as honest as possible.

Just end it now if you are THAT against weed.. because he won’t stop. If he’s not addicted and it’s not causing serious turmoil in his life/relationships, then it’s not a big deal for him to smoke with friends for fun. No different than having a drink with the guys. You can’t control everything he does even when you don’t like something.. just a fact you’re gonna have to swallow and deal with, or move on

I don’t think you are being controlling, you are making your opinions clear to him, if he had changed his mind he should have come to you and had a discussion with you about it.

Blahahaha my husband does that shit. Didn’t lie you didn’t ask 🤯 we’re going to therapy for that shit