Edit: I’d like to remind everyone to please actually read the entire post before you comment.

RESPONSE TO SARAH: if you read the whole post, you’d see that SHE is the one who suggested the particular place to begin with..I’m the one who had to get the information and she said she couldn’t afford the deposit, and I said I have money. So I’ve never sat here and said it has to be where I say or that she has to pay for everything. But if she can’t afford to do it, she shouldn’t have took it upon herself to offer. I would never expect someone to go into debt over throwing me a baby shower. Also, this isn’t how it used to be, anyone can have a baby shower, including for themselves. Plenty of people do it that way these days. I understand I can’t force anything but this is MY baby shower about MY baby and me. That’s the whole point. So I truly don’t think it’s ridiculous at all to request it be done in a certain time frame.

I just need to vent! Some may not agree with me and that’s fine. This will be pretty long. Hopefully everyone will read the entire thing.

I’m due May 12th, so we do still have a bit of time but I’m TRYING to be as organized as possible and at least get a date and place set, because I know where I live places fill up quick!

In the beginning of my pregnancy my cousin that I’m closest to (our moms are sisters) offered to throw my baby shower. So that was nice of her.

I’m now 21 weeks and a few days. Within the past 2 weeks, I’ve asked my cousin 2 times what dates she’s thinking will work for her, so that my boyfriend and I can also make sure they’ll work for us schedule wise. I suggested the last weekend in February which puts me at 29 weeks and some days, the first weekend in March which puts me at 30 weeks, or the last weekend of March which puts me at 33 weeks almost 34.

I truly do not want to do it any later than that because this is my first child. I want to be comfortable, organized and make sure I have enough time left that I can return/exchange anything if need be, or still have time to buy what is still needed. Since it’s my first baby I obviously have no idea when I could actually give birth. There’s obviously never any telling how early or late someone could go and that makes me nervous!

Anyway, each time I have asked my cousin she responds with “I’ll check” but has never gotten back to me. So I took it upon myself today to call the place we had discussed having it at and just see what dates are available and how much it will cost. I got the information and told it to her. She told me she definitely doesn’t have the money for the deposit. So I told her I have and will have money, but that I want to at least get the date and place set sooner rather than later. She told me she could let me know about dates by tonight since she just got her on call work schedule, but she’s insisting that it be sometime in April. Again, the latest I want to do it is the last weekend in March. I know we have to work together though if she’s the one throwing it for me, but I feel very firm about this.

This was her response to me (I copy and pasted it from Snapchat) “I won't be helping if you want to do it that early..... The last weekend in March or first weekend in April is plenty early enough. Doing a baby shower 3 months before your due date is way too early"

I’m due May 12th so the dates I suggested that I’m available and comfortable with are not 3 months before my due date as she states. And I said the last weekend in March would work/be fine. I’m seriously just pissed about her response. I think it’s rude af. I understand the date has to be when we’re both available, but this isn’t even about that, she’s turning it into about how far along I am. I explained to her before that response why I want it when I want it also. How’s she gonna sit there and dictate what dates are acceptable for MY shower whether shes throwing it for me or not?

At this point I really just don’t know what to do.