If someone you’re looking to pursue a relationship with shoes red flags like insecurity, slight manipulation, and controlling in a way but minor do you think if the person says they are willing to do anything for you to fix it to make it work, should you stay? He told me he would do anything for me and to make me feel more comfortable and to work with him and help him fix them but I told him those are things he needs to work on individually and that I want him to change Bc he sees the need for change, not just for me. Am I wrong? Should I stay and work it out. I really like him but I do have reasons to be skeptical. I went through an abusive, controlling, and manipulative situation so the slightest form of any of these will push me away. He’s manipulative in the way that when I told him it wasn’t the right time for us to be together he said if I cared I wouldn’t leave and give up and keeps trying to change my mind which is controlling. I asked for space and time but he keeps asking to see me or to work things out. He tells me he will give me space but he isn’t. We talked for a month and a half and he just told me he loved me. He showed me insecurity by constantly making comments about me wanting other people, or saying he wants to fight anyone who looks at me, then we went to his friend and I laughed at a joke one of them made and he was like oh so y’all are vibing? You like him now? It was a joke but I know there was truth and a reason he said it. I mentioned how I didn’t like him saying things like that but he kept doing it. My ex constantly accused me of doing things I wasn’t so I don’t like it. He said oh when you go to the clubs you probably dance like this but won’t do it for me etc. also, when I told him no don’t do something he would try again which also threw me off. After a month he told me I had until 12 that day to make a decision whether I wanted to date him or not and I told him I didNt know. He has a lot of great qualities but the red flags scare me. If I can do anything to avoid what I went through in the past I will. Is it right to step out of the situation and do my own thing? He tells me he doesn’t want that and that if I talk to someone else or get close to someone then I played him and didn’t actually care for him although I did and wanted it to work more than anything. Am I wrong ? I’m so confused I don’t know what to do.