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So, to me in seems as though you aren't very experienced which is totally fine. It sounds as though he's hitting your cervix and not your urethra. I suggest, you use lube & use a vibrator on your clit while having sex.Have him slow down ( he doesn't sounds to experienced either) tell him to take his time and do slow strokes and not go as deep until your vagina is fully relaxed and ready to take his penis.Find out what you like, nipple play or passionate kissing. If your of drinking age, try to have a drink before hand or take a nice hit relaxing bath.Sex isn't science but sometimes it takes our body sometime to be able to fully enjoy it. Also, I'm very experienced have 2 children and I still find being "fingered" painful and unpleasant. It's okay to not like something, just find out what you do like.Goodluck!
Oral sex, help
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 7 months. I lost my virginity to him. I've never been like a very sexual person, meaning that I get wet if he does somethings, but I wouldn't mind if we didn't have sex. I just not feel horny. (For anyone, never)
A few times he has gone down on me, and the first time I was like "Hm. Yeah. Wet. I just feel sth wet" but I thought it was normal because it was the first time...
Nope
Just twice I have felt like an orgasm coming, but I never finish (this happens with penetration too, I've never orgasmed and believe me when I say I've had a lot of sex in very different positions).
And many times, he hits a spot I guess it's the urethra, and it burns.
So I always tell him to stop because yeah, wet and burns. So fucking fun.
We have tried taking it slowly, fast, clitoris sucking, massaging the clitoris (which is uncomfortable as fuck? Soft or harsh, I can't)
So yeah, we almost broke up twice because I'm unable to receive pleasure from sex and he ends up feeling bad for me because he only hurts me (penetration and fingering are also very unpleasant.
The first leaves me breathless when he hits a spot or burns, and the second one, when he hits what he says is the G point, I feel like I'm about to pee but if also hurts a bit (I've tried peeing before sex because I know this sensation is not rare), it's as annoying as having water up your nostrils. Not gonna die but you know, uncomfortable.
Some tips please?
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Not everyone is sexually compatible no matter how many things you try. This might be the case with you 2. Ive had sex with 27 guys and most of them were good but they didn’t all make me orgasm. Some of them were just plain terrible though and did nothing for me. Just coz he doesn’t get you off doesn’t mean nobody else can.
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6.5inchs isn’t exactly a big penis. Its the bigger side of average. I doubt its your cervix either. You’ve been doing things a while so you have experience now. It just sounds like you aren’t sexually compatible.
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We have been thinking that maybe my cervix is too sensible at the time we are doing it (although we had done it at all moments of the cycle), I lack experience (which I doubt at this point) or maybe his penis is too large for me (16,5cm / 6.5 inches). Also, I always end up with gas stuffed in the same spot for hours or even three days (we know that some positions work best but like, always. Doggy style just destroys me)
Sounds like he doesn't know what he's doing. He's probably rushing things and you can't relax. Have you tried watching porn or something that will get you in the mood, because sex will surely burn if your are not relaxed and turned on. You can start by him giving you oral but real gentle at first then increase it slowly.
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We have used lube several times, because with time we have seen that the friction of condoms ends up burning pretty quickly. And with masturbating, I can't do it with my hands, or the shower or whatever. At the moment, I'm using an electric toothbrush and put it on the clit. Works just fine. I don't get the same sensation as I get when I'm about to have an orgasm with my partner, which I find more pleasant (the sensation always disappears in 5 seconds or so). Also, the toothbrush ends up hurting after a couple of times, so we are thinking of buying a real sex toy. I'm 16 btw
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If you have tried sex with other people, was it the same feeling? Maybe you just don't click with the guy?
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Have you tried to Masturbate? On your own. So you can explore your body and what you like /dislike. I just read your other posts and believe me at 16 I was not really experienced and thought I couldn't orgasm until one time it just happened during oral. And from there I just knew what I love the most and what moves I like. Also have you tried lube? It's a game changer!!! Even if you are wet, it totally helps!! The major of women won't cum from penetration, so I don't think it's something wrong with you. Since you're 16 I guess you're new at this and will need some time to know what you enjoy and to get familiar with it.
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