Sorry this is a little long but I need advice and I keep researching on the internet but sometimes it is easier to speak to people in the same situation. Last year my fiance suddenly started having panic attacks and suffered with anxiety and depression. When it first started happening he didn't know what was going on and neither did I so I just assumed that he didn't want to be with me anymore which was hard to deal with, no matter how many times he tried to reassure me that wasn't the case as I had never seen him act this way before like needing to keep going out for drives etc and going sitting alone I didn't believe him. It really was heartbreaking seeing him the way he was he does not get upset easily normally and he is usually the one supporting us and our little family so to see him keep breaking down and blaming himself was soul destroying to watch. Then I started researching anxiety etc and I sat him down and we had a look at different types of anxiety and we could narrow it down to a few which we thought he had the main one being health anxiety. So he went to the doctors and they tried him on several different treatments and finally found one which suited. Things didn't seem to calm down though.

Fast forward 6 months we decided to start a little dry wall business I made a website a google account joined trustatrader we spent money on tools and other things we needed. This had a massive impact on his anxiety and as the customers rolled in his anxiety rolled away and he seemed to be getting a lot better which we were both thrilled about. He was going through hell in his own head which to a point I understand as I suffer with social anxiety and have done since being 15 when I was 20 I didnt leave the house for months I went into a bubble so I somewhat understood.

Fast forward another few months begining of November and as christmas was around the corner we hardly got any business and people that did get intouch just messed around so for the last 2 months we have had no work just the odd job to tide us over. And within this last 4 weeks I started to notice the change in him and I could see it coming back but I didn't want to mention it because with health anxiety things like that can fully trigger it. Then we were watching a film chilled out the kids where asleep and he just sat up started breathing rapidly had to pace about snapped when I spoke etc I knew he was having a panic attack so we tried all of the things we learnt to try in the past and it didn't last so long. But his anxiety is just back with a bang and it is getting worse everyday. He always thinks he is going to have heart attack which is called cardiophobia related to health anxiety and I have to keep reminding him he isn't. I never know if I am saying the right thing sometimes he snaps at me others he walks out I try my best to keep him as calm as possible and practice the things we have but I just need help and advice if anyone is/has been going through this and can give me some tips I would appreciate it honestly it really would help.

Sorry it is long he doesn't like me talking to family about it as he feel embarrassed and I respect him and don't do but sometimes its hard to deal with even if he thinks it is selfish of me feeling like its hard when hes the one going through it I can't help it its heartbreaking seeing him that way.