so i’ve been dating my bf for a year and a few months. i moved in with him because i had some roommate problems. At the begging of the relationship he was so kind and loving and we were always having sex. i did see some red flags like him talking about his exs a lot and telling me how one was in his dream then told me my friend looked just like his ex so i took a step back because that was weird to me. Anyway let’s Fastforward a few months and he’s been inches away from me he’s called me a big girl since i’ve moved in w him saying how we both need to lose weight which i agree but he could be nicer about it and then sometimes he’d tell me he’s too attractive for me, one time he told me he started talking to me again because he was bored. i told him i didn’t like these things and he’s cooled down a little but there were more red flags he’s always on his

phone and it’s always blowing up whatever but it’s the apps he never posts about me on and has a lot of “girls” on there from tumblr and tinder when he had it because i asked him about a girl once and he told me he didn’t know her, but has her on every social media. which is sketchy. well tonight he was on his phone all night while we were watching a movie he moved so i couldn’t see the screen and i thought it was sketch so i’d glimpse at him and could see he took a screenshot and we made eye contact and i was pissed. this means he was looking to see if i saw and i did but i know if i would ask him

about it he would tell me i’m crazy and it’s none of my business and i’m possessive and somehow everytime we try to communicate he’s always the victim and never does any wrong and i’m always the one who ends up apologizing. im sure this is jumpy i’m just so confused and can’t tell if i’m overthinking or if these are real red flags and i should be done. i feel like we’ve had the same argument since we’ve been together and it’s exhausting but i have no vehicle and my stuff is all here and my parents are hours away.

i don’t know what to do

he doesn’t let me look at his phone ever. he’s showed me his phone but always makes sure it’s not in plain sight and his laptop is always closed.