So my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. He’s been best friends with this girl for 7 years. I know men and women can be friends. I just find things..weird.

So first, they have had sex at least a few times (he says before me, I’m not sure). They talk all day everyday. There have been numerous times I’ve been doing something with him and she wants to do something so he will invite her too and she refuses. Because I’m there. I have 0 relationship with her. Barely have ever seen her in person.

The other day he went out with her and two other people and didn’t respond to me for 3 hours, so I drove to his house at 3:30 in the morning. I called him first, as I was down the road because I watched her pull into his driveway with him with food. She looked pissed to see me but I had to leave due to going back to work. He was high (weed) as fuck. They get high and drink together. They see each other at least once a week, but usually it’s several times. I’m never included. She’s always there super late into the night.

Once I read in their messages “can you get what’s on the coffee table and bring it down to me?” While he was in the shower..I don’t know what was on the coffee table.

She also told him that her boyfriend made her choose between him and my boyfriend and she picked my boyfriend...because he “means so much” to her.

There are years worth of stories that have made me uncomfortable.

Most recently, he cleared his PARENTS garage out of his stuff. He then told me that there is now enough space to park a car and his friend is going to use the garage. I’m sorry, what? Why in the fuck does your friend feel comfortable with even asking that?

We have a daughter together, she’s 3. He has brought her around our daughter because I work nights and she comes over at night. She gave him a Christmas card that completely didn’t include me at all. I read it when he didn’t see. Now it’s mysteriously missing. Just him and him having a “good Christmas” with our daughter.

And honestly, I find all of this weird. But he doesn’t apparently. And I’m really debating on leaving him because I’m just not comfortable. There are no boundaries for them it seems.

So if you’ve read this far, do you think this is strange? Do you find this normal? Opinions on all of it? I want to talk to him about it, but we’ve had several arguments over her through the years. I do feel something is going on between them and has never stopped but he will never admit that to me.

An edit to a response. Our arguments about her are because I have tried to explain what I’m comfortable and uncomfortable with and I have asked over and over to be included. She doesn’t want me to be. I don’t think he does either, to be honest.

Thank you ladies. I knew it wasn’t normal, but he makes me feel crazy when I bring it up.