I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and I love him, we get along good majority of the time, and we’re really close.

The only problem in our relationship is his obvious struggle in dealing with his mental health. (ADHD, bipolar, anxiety, PTSD, and a few others). He’s told me in the past that he wishes he could be normal, wishes that he didn’t need constant appointments and meds, that he feels like nothing works, and other things like that. He is TERRIBLE with stress to the point where if something stresses him out, he loses motivation and avoids whatever he feels the stress source is, and I feel like this is what he does with his mental health problems.

As an outsider, I can tell a HUGE difference between when he’s on meds and when he’s not. When he’s not, he’s EXTREMELY touchy, always angry about something, looses a ton of weight quickly, stays up for days on end, and is just all over the place. But I know as someone who is experiencing it, it might not feel different.

Not to mention that his family members are rude to him about when he goes off his meds. Instead of showing genuine concern, they yell at him to “take a pill” and tell him he’s just lazy when he goes into a depression. He’s even told me that their lack of support only makes him want to give up more.

How can I help to support him? Or motivate him? I hate seeing him struggle and wish he could see that his worth, because I know I see it.