My husband mentioned tonight that he had to leave for work in two hours, grabbed my butt and asked if I was showering soon. I winked and said “Yes, I’m gonna go right now if you wanna meet me.” He didn’t meet me in the shower so I got out, put on some cute red lace lingerie, and greeted him when he walked in the room. He immediately groaned and said he didn’t feel like sex and that I was pushing sex onto him. I said I was confused because he insinuated that he wanted sex and he said “Well now that you’re doing this I don’t want it.” I then asked him why he turned me down every time I got all dolled up for him and he said “It feels like when you do that you’ve planned sex and I hate planned sex. I like spontaneous sex in the dark. When you try to make a huge deal out of it, it makes me mad and now every time we have sex it’s as awful and boring as paying bills.” I was really hurt but asked how I could make it less boring and he said to spice things up. I asked for ideas since my ideas of spicing it up (anal, lingerie, anything else) seem to make him mad. He shrugged and said “I just want good sex.” I asked how I could give him good sex and he shrugged and left the room. WTF did I do wrong? I just want to please him 😭