A friend suggested I write a letter but not actually send it in order to get my feelings out of my system...so here it is.

Dear you,

I’m sorry that I never allowed us to find closure. When I left, I had to move full speed or I knew I wouldn’t be able to move at all. I wish I could sum up why I left into one simple answer. You know deep down that’s not possible.

I loved you with all of my heart. I gave you all of me... every single piece of me. Eventually there was no part of myself left for me because I had devoted all of it to you. I ignored all of my own problems in order to take care of yours. I realized that I lost myself completely in loving you.

After seven years together, I couldn’t imagine myself spending my life with anyone else other than you. You were my best friend, my love, my person. Except our friendship and love grew into a codependent relationship that we just couldn’t change. It wasn’t healthy. I understood all of your flaws and even loved you for them, but I couldn’t take care of you anymore. I couldn’t continue to substitute the love you didn’t have for yourself.

I will always miss your love but I needed to let go of it. I needed to learn to focus my energy and love on myself. You needed to do the same. You told me you couldn’t do it on your own but I believe in you.

I hope that you found peace and the ability to move forward. Just know I never meant to hurt you.