Timeline on when you should get engaged?

Do you think that you should be together for X amount of years/months before the man asks you to marry him?

We have been together 8 years, I have a promise ring and still no proposal.. We are trying to conceive baby number 1.

He has been married and divorced with 2 kids.

Friends tell me "wow you've been together 8 years and he still hasn't asked you to marry him"

Kinda makes me feel upset when I hear that. I feel like everyone has their own timeline, we aren't in any rush. We both know we want to get married, we just want it to be special. We have looked at rings.

I feel like we aren't financially able to afford the a ring I'd want (doesn't need to be $50,000 or anything crazy) but we just aren't financially settle to afford a ring at the moment. Looking more into fixing our credit and potentially buying a house in the future...

What are all of your opinions?!

My promise ring is good enough but at the same time I'm 30 and he is 38, a promise ring to me is a bit childish. I think he can figure it out and propose already?

Even if he did propose I wouldn't want to get married quickly. I'd say when he does propose I'd like to marry in 2ish years..... Thoughts 💭 ladies!

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UPDATE:

Some of you are just RUDE. Wow. I am 100% happy, confident and content in my relationship. I am glad to still be together for 8 years in this world these days. Some of you are crazy to me.

First: I'd never tell my boyfriend you HAVE to marry me in X years or im leaving you. (Psycho) To be honest, a ring and a piece of paper won't change our relationship at all. I guess I'm not the type of girl to force things or make any specifics on how my life will be. I work toward things and let life do its thing for me.

So far it's been good to me, given I have a great career and a strong man who's never left my side in 8 years with two step kids.

Second: No I don't need a 10K ring. But the rings I have looked at and like are around 5K-8K and if u wanna talk shit and say I'm "bouji" keep it to yourself. I live how I am comfortable and you can live how you'd like. I am not over here judging you if you have a shitty cheap ring and ur husband probably cheats on u or a 50K ring living in a mansion on the beach. To each themselves!

I guess this topic really triggered some people. 😂

I'm happy, I don't need to beg or tell anyone to marry me. Like I said prior, I want to put all of our extra money (aside from savings as well) toward our credit and our house.

He will get me the ring I want and make it special when he wants to. Maybe tomorrow maybe in 5 years. Don't know don't care. Yes I will bring a baby into this world on gods terms, when he blesses us with one. Before or after marriage. Point is, I'll be with my boyfriend until the end of time, I guess I didn't realize 8 years flew by. But you rude chicks out there keep it to yourself, go be miserable somewhere else. Because I DONT CARE.