I’ve been seeing my boyfriend since October, but we had an immediate connection that I’ve never felt with anyone before. He’s already hinted that he’s going to propose before I go into labor. And he makes me feel calm and safe. This isn’t his baby, the biological father isn’t in the picture. However, my boyfriend has a six year old from a previous marriage and has been through all of this before. He’s been excited to help me shop for baby things and he’s offered to be there with me through labor.

I’m currently living at home with my parents because I’ve been to sick to work since about 5 weeks into pregnancy. Super bad morning sickness, my job took me off the schedule because I couldn’t do the work and nothing was helping. So I’m with my parents daily and they’re pretty involved in planning for this baby. But I’m SUPER uncomfortable with the idea of my mother being in the room during labor. I’ve never been close to her. I’ve barely seen or spoken to her in the past few years prior to moving home. I love her, I’d just rather do this alone before allowing her in the room.

I haven’t told her I’d feel more comfortable with my boyfriend there. All I’ve said is I don’t want her there. I don’t want to be rude but I’m terrified of labor and I want to be as calm and comfortable as possible come April.