So this is going to be a long post 😬 sorry in advance.

We have a 7 month old son, and my boyfriend's family has nothing to do with my boyfriend or our son, by their own choice. They stopped talking to my boyfriend after he started dating me (they don't know me at all, so I don't think I'm the problem, but who knows). My family thinks it's so horrible that my boyfriend's family makes no effort to see our son (which it is). However, I've noticed that WE are always the ones making an effort for our son to see my family. We usually stay the weekend by parents once or twice a month. They live less than an hour away, but we figure this gives them more time to see him. If we don't go out there, they make no effort to come see us for a afternoon or anything, they don't call (we're always the ones to call), and they never message us unless we message first. If we don't call, visit or message, they'll go weeks without seeing him or talking to him until we either decide to go out there or call. While we are out there, they most of the time leave us at their house with the baby and go spend time with my sister's family or friends, or go do something else. So we go out there and they spend maybe a few hours with him and then we just sit at their house watching TV and playing with the baby. Since my sister (who lives closer to them) had her twins, it's gotten worse. Honestly I'm sick of always being the one to make the effort when they go see their other grandchildren almost daily. I'm thinking about just not visiting, calling or messaging them until they start making an effort. Is this petty of me? Should I just suck it up and continue to make all the effort? Should I wait until they start making an effort? Honestly being treated like we don't matter as much as my sister's family is really starting to affect my mental health.

For reference, my sister lives 15min away from them and we live 45min away.

Also want to add that we do overnights because that was originally what my parents wanted and with our schedule we literally only had 6 days a month that they could spend with our son.