Hair help! Sticks up no matter what

Whenever I shower, I always have frizzy hair after it dries. I do not use heat on my hair at all. I use "moisturizing" shampoo and conditioner but it really does crap. The only time it doesn't have frizz on the top is when I wear my winter hat while it wet and it dries like that and works. I only found that out because I had to go to the store after I showered and I came back and my hair was flat and I was like wow ok. Everyone says baby hairs and or dry hair. It sticks up a lot and I'm like one of the only girls I've noticed it happening to and I'm insecure about it. I bought a product from Aussie that you put in your hair when it's wet and then dries and it like puts weight on your hair so it doesn't stick up but it doesn't always work. I have tried a bunch of stuff and I can't find anything.

Does anyone have this issue? I need serious help, I'm not wearing a winter hat after every shower.. What can I do?😩