Bf almost cheated

Guys my bf said that he almost cheated but he got chickened out, he said he almost tried to meet up with this chick, he didn’t tell me until days later because he said he wasn’t able to sleep and not only that when I would ask for sex he would say no that he’s tired or simply didn’t feel the need, even tho he did but wasn’t comfortable for the things he was keeping, well he told me what was happening and obviously I told my friends because I was disappointed and I told him that my friends and family nows and he had the audacity to get mad because the men in my family and friends would tell him that he was a dumb ass for not fucking her, and I said what the fuck do you care about that, that’s so stupid if men think about that way. They are thinking that you have respect and are better than other men. I don’t know what to think anymore, should I be grateful he told me the truth? Or should I be an ass about it?