My bf was in a hit and run car accident on Saturday.. but he was the one that ran.

We live a couple hours apart so all I knew at first was that he was in an accident and to cancel my plans of coming to see him for the weekend. Then I didn’t hear back from him for 2 hours.. he didn’t even tell me if he was ok or not. I was already mad. Turns out he was getting arrested for reasons unknown at the time.

I was furious... when I found out he wasn’t staying over night in jail and was getting released, I told him to figure out a ride home from the police station from someone else and I stayed home.

After he was released he was texting me about how he feels like a terrible person, he failed as a human being today, and he just needed a hug from me. I know accidents happen.. so I drove to be with him for the weekend.

When I got there, he told me a couple more details about the wreck. Turns out he was speeding and trying to pass a car on a 2 lane back road. There was another car in the oncoming lane as he was trying to pass so when he came back behind the other car, he clipped their bumper (almost like a pit maneuver in a car chase) sending them flipping through the air and through someone’s fence into their yard. He said he thought he killed them and his life was over so he ran... he didn’t tell me anything else about what happened except that he got 2 tickets.

To say I’m pissed is an understatement. But I’m also torn on how to react.. I want to be there for him but this just makes me question so much about his character. To top it off.. he called into work yesterday *and* today because he’s “not ready to go back”. He’s already tight on bills and now his car isn’t driveable, he’ll have lawyer fees and court fines too. He has anxiety and probably a few other mental health issues so I feel for him but also it was his fault...

I just really don’t know what to do. I want to talk to him about it but I worry that he’ll blow up at me for even bringing it up. Advice appreciated.