Just had the most difficult conversation with the in-laws about not being here before or even directly after the birth of their grandson. I have been saying the whole time that there is no point in them coming early, but then trying to convince them of coming down two weeks after to give us time to get a routine down and establish ourselves as a family of three was even more difficult. My mother in law was constantly saying “you have your mom and grandma there, you don’t NEED me” in the most guilt trippy voice I have ever heard. I had to tell her my mom wasn’t going to be here constantly either. They understood and are coming down later than we planned, which is nice. But it’s more of the attitude that they approached the whole conversation. Anyone else feel this way or had to have this talk? Second time or more moms, did you want help right after or did the time alone help you bond?