So I got dumped by my boyfriend of a year and a half recently. He said it was his own health and life at first but then he confessed that it was because he was self deprecating and told me he was sorry for dragging me into his negativity. I started noticing the signs that the relationship was going to fail a month before that and he became way more insensitive and wanting me to stay in my unhealthy weight to make himself feel better about his own health problems.

Of course I was angry at his confession but I kept calm and went completely cold emotionally to him. That made him worried as he wants to be friends but unfortunately for him that will never happen. Why should I be friends to someone who is just going to be negative about life? I refuse to be dragged back into negative mindset again and thus a friendship is not worth it.

I had dealt with way more harsher things in life due to being in the military and that he could not deal with the consequences of making those negative remarks. When I became negative, I would cut of my emotions and he got no affection and then he would be frustrated but never talked about it. It was a vicious cycle that was not going to break so easily. So in way, he doomed the relationship all on his own.

I did made sure to talk to my doctor about this and she reported that my health has improved greatly. She said that his negativity had been affecting my health so it looks like I am in the road to recovery. I am going to focus on myself and just enjoying my single life.

So while I may have lost a boyfriend, I have gained knowledge in knowing that I will be alright. Life goes on and I will continue to walk my own path. I am free to live my life the way I want to. No longer do the chains of his negativity tie me down. I have broken away and he can no longer drag me down. I am happy and I am free.