Earlier today I was trying to encourage my boyfriend into taking an online drivers ed class, like I did, to later take the test and get his learners license. I took this class when I was 16 and up to this day (I’m now 18) I still have it and I’ve been practicing. I was encouraging him because he’s 17 and he doesn’t know how to drive yet. Since soon we’ll be graduating, I assumed we would both be getting cars and our licenses to be able to drive to college. I thought if he took the class now and got his learners it would benefit him in many ways like not having to take the theoretic and the drivers test all at once, insurance will be lower, and he would have the chance to practice. He immediately shot down the idea saying his mom won’t let him because she didn’t want him to get it yet. She told him that she’d be like his “Uber driver”. When he said that I was thinking “seriously?”.

I explained to him it would mean that in the future he would still have to ask his mom for permission to go somewhere and have her drive him there. And what if she couldn’t? I wouldn’t have a problem picking him up for school, but what if our schedules don’t match and we don’t have classes at the same time? I highly doubt his mom would want to drive him all the way to college and pick him up as well. Of course he doesn’t agree with his mom, but last time he asked her about getting his learner’s license she went off about how it’s dangerous and she basically was trying to scare him.

I feel like as parents you have to prepare your child to face the world because one day you’re not gonna be there to protect them and I feel like she’s just holding him back. I understand he’s still a minor and he lives under her roof, but in a few months we’re graduating and what exactly is gonna happen?