VENT and HORMONES!

So im due in 2 days with my 2nd baby boy. Hubby wasn't very hands on first time around but says this time he would like to do more eg. Wash baby...and our 1st born. My problem is that he doesn't even do much for our 1st born and it makes me sad that my son is so stressed already for some reason. He already loves his brother. But started peeing anywhere ... started developing tics... i feel that hubby is sometimes so selfish. When i ask for a massage im told im taking advantage if he goes over 3 minutes. Thats if i get it because is usually watching tv after work. i do everything for my kid and hubby but sometimes i think he doesnt consider me at all. His friend is moving into his house on the 1st nov and he offered to help him move. Im like hello? I might b in hospital giving birth? Or having to ask him not to work late. These 2 days. Am i being unreasonable? Sometimes i think his just unappreciative of the things i do for him. This morning he forgot to take his lunch... i called him back and he says "i love you"" i reluctantly said you too. But its not about love. Its about being grateful that my wife got up and made me lunch. A simple thank you would be sufficient. I wish i didnt feel this way. His not a bad husband. But sometimes i feel like he thinks working is all he neds to do as his duty as a husband :(