I don't want to make this to long but I want you ladies to really understand where I am coming from.

Ok so next month i am scheduled to have my c section, my husband and I also have a 2 year old who obviously can not be with us at the time of surgery so her grandparents will be watching her.

I absolutely do not want anyone in my room after having the baby, I dont want anyone in the hospital at all besides my husband and my children. Now here is my dilemma.

Of course his family (my daughters grands) will have to be at the hospital if I want her to be able to come back the same day of surgery , how do I tell them I don't want them in the room or to meet our newest edition until after we go home?

My reasoning is first time around was not at all how we imagined. We had twins at 26weeks and I was in the hospital for 7 days. I feel as though all decisions were taken away from me. Our daughters were in the NICU of course and we did allow people to visit but my husband's family didn't listen to anything we said. They touched our daughters while in their incubators and we asked all family not to. They took pictures and shared them with other family members which we also asked them not to do. My husband's mom of sorts (a woman that helped raise him, his real mom died) so grandma doesn't listen to anything I say. I love her but she just think she is always right so if my opinion differs from hers then her feelings are hurt and she sits there and sulks or just ignores me. His dad is so opinionated and I dont feel like hearing them tell me what to do with our child which they try to do on the daily. I want this time around to be as stress free as possible.

(One of our daughters passed away while in the NICU so that is why I only mention one daughter being at the hospital)

I know I am asking for a lot by asking them to come to the hospital and telling them I don't want them in my hospital room but I really want my daughter there. I would love for her to meet her brother on the day he is born. And also I am so sad that I will have to spend days away from her because I will be in the hospital for minimum of 3 days.