Little bit of a rant forgive me ladies.

I’m sure some others of you have started thinking about what you want when that exciting time comes to deliver our little babes! I’m already so excited for it! However I’ve come across one problem that’s not huge but I’m not sure if it’s extremely mean of me to do so.

I love my parents, they are amazing and beyond excited to be welcoming another grand child (my twin sister has a toddler Boy) especially since we found out I’m having their first grand daughter.

But my dad won’t listen to me at all, he’s told everyone the gender, he told my grandparents and aunts/uncles I was pregnant without asking me. And then got upset when I finally snapped back and asked him to please stop spreading my news without asking me first. I’m an EXTREMELY introverted and socially anxious person. I don’t like people knowing a whole lot about my life without my choice to say something.

My momma gets it, she asks me before telling anyone anything and makes sure I’m most comfortable with everything. Even changed her baby shower plans because I asked for a different date that worked better for me.

My parents are together and my mom keeps trying to reign my dad in but he can’t seem to help himself at all.

So after a few dicusssions with my fiancée and knowing the absolute crap shoot that was dealing with my dad while my twin was labour and everyone just waiting at the hospital. (Mom, dad, me, my younger sister, her in laws, aunt and uncle) I don’t want that... I just want everyone to stay at home and wait for me to call them and ask them to come.

They live 3 mins from the hospital so if I need my mom she can be there ASAP! Of course when I mention not telling her I’m in labour her and my dad say it’s absolutely cruel and rude of me to not inform them and allow them to wait in the waiting room. But I know dad will inform everyone and I want to be the one to announce we’ve had our daughter.

So I guess my question is, am I really being terrible for choosing to not tell ANYONE (fiancés parents across the country included) I’m in labour until after the baby is born? I just feel like I want the experience to myself and my fiancé and the first couple of hours to ourselves before the shit storm of people and messages hit me...

I know my dad means well but he just won’t listen no matter what I’m trying to say!

Thanks for coming along on my rant!