So I know this is going to be life-long as we raise kids, etc. But just looking for insight on how people are dealing or have dealt with this. How do you talk with your parents about the choices you're making during pregnancy if they don't agree?

The latest issue with my parents has been that they don't understand why I'm choosing to work with a midwife and planning to deliver at a free-standing birth center. They want me to transfer to an OB and a hospital birth. Even though my spouse and I interviewed several potential care providers (midwives and OBs) and went to several birth center tours (hospital and out of hospital), did a ton of research, talked to a childbirth educator, talked over our choices together, etc. We feel good about our decision but my parents aren't really hearing it.

The other more minor issue is that I have a trip planned in early March for a work conference and they want me to cancel the trip. I'll be 16 weeks at the time of the trip and have checked with my midwife and my primary care physician and I'm cleared to travel. But my parents just keep telling me to cancel the trip because I'm pregnant.

Some basic info... This is my third pregnancy but the other two ended in miscarriage very early on, 7 & 8 weeks. Everything looks great with this pregnancy. I'm not pregnant with multiples and don't have any major health issues that would make the pregnancy high risk. This would be my parents' first grandchild so they've never been through this before and they are basing their knowledge on what they remember from over 30 years ago. My mom even asked me why I didn't go to the OB office she went to and I had to tell her that that practice no longer exists 🤦🏽‍♀️

I'm sure there will be even more issues in the coming weeks and years, and bottom line is that I'm still going to make decisions that I think are best for me and my family (including unborn child), but I want to be able to have open, honest conversations with my parents without them steamrolling me. This is something I've been working on with them for a long time (basically getting them to see me as an adult) but I thought if anyone here has any good insight, I'd love to hear it! Thanks!