Hi guys, I have been dating my boyfriend for two years now and yesterday we had a talk about marriage, and we both ended up hurt, and sad.

I am an international student in the U.K. and met him in my second year of university. Now I am doing my masters and I hope to find a job in the U.K. and get my Tier 2 visa to stay. If not, I will have to go somewhere else and start anew.

The thing is my boyfriend and I have been living together since summer last year, and it doesn’t seem that I am really in his future plans.

I always had crazy expectations about marriage growing up because of my culture, and I really hoped he was just going to pop the question anytime.

However it doesn’t seem to be that way.

It doesn’t help either that my parents make me feel very anxious about the whole business, as they want us to marry because they feel its going to make my life easier in the UK, and I really see their point of view.

However, marrying is also a very complicated business in the U.K. and I really don’t know much about the whole “status” thing.

My parents ask if there is an option to be a “concubine” in the U.K. etc, but I don’t know anything about that either.

I feel so much pressure from them, so I decided to share it with him. I shouldn’t have because he thinks my parents don’t like him and he thinks they believe he is taking advantage of me.

Idk I feel I may have presented the information on the wrong way, but basically in my head the only thing I had in mind was: is it possible to become your concubine or something like that?

I really love him, and I like his family and friends. They make such a big part of my heart now, that I would be absolutely shattered if I lose any of them.

I want to marry my boyfriend, not for stupid paperwork but because I am really in love with him, and I don’t really see myself with anybody else, and it’s a good relationship, we love and respect each other and we are best friends.

However, it doesn’t matters how I put it but he becomes silent and he won’t speak his feelings at all. I always share my thoughts and emotions, but he doesn’t seem to open, so I don’t really know how he feels about me, or if he wants me at all in his life.

Finally he replied to me and said he wanted to marry when he was thirty. I asked why, but he didn’t have an answer.

I don’t really know what to do. I really don’t care when to marry really but I don’t even know if he wants me to wait until that age. I asked but again he didn’t say. I asked if we should break up, and he said no.

I feel anxious about the future and I really hoped by our second year of relationship I would have a clear idea of where our relationship is going. So far : we are just living together, and that is it.

About the visa stuff, I really hoped he would say he would do anything to keep him by his side, but he just appears to have no opinion about the subject whatsoever. It’s always more complicated when your partner is foreign.