How would/do you classify it?

Question

I had a “chemical pregnancy” last June after an IUI procedure and it’s something I’m having some trouble categorizing it in my own mind and on paper...
The other day at an OBGYN I was informed that I now have to check the box that says I’ve had 1 pregnancy and 0 children... because I was going to a fertility clinic at the time I knew everyday what my levels are and what that meant for the implanted egg? (embryo?) whatever you want to call it, and I knew almost exactly when the hormones fell too low for a pregnancy to flourish, which wasn’t long.
I have always felt that actually calling it or saying that I’ve had a miscarriage, and are now hoping to have a rainbow baby, would somehow lessen the emotions and devastation of those who have definitely had a “real” miscarriage. 
However the fact that this many months later it still bothers me and especially having to change the way I filled out that paperwork... really made my mixed up feelings even more so!
What would you say? Feel? Fill out paperwork at any non Gyno doctors office? 
I just need some other perspectives.... please
I would have made a poll but couldn’t think how to phrase one!

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That is 100% up to you. You are more than welcome to call it a loss and miscarriage. My 5 month old son died and you calling your chemical a loss doesn’t bother me. ❤️

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I would hate filling out that paperwork! In my case, I had a stillbirth, and I know that technically, I’d have to say 1 pregnancy and 0 children, but he is 100% my child, even though he’s gone. Saying that I had 0 children would kill me. So I can see why this would upset you.
If you want to call your chemical a miscarriage, go ahead. That being said, I would clarify afterwords that it was a chemical. It bothers me a bit when people say that they had a stillbirth, when it was technically classified as a miscarriage (before 20 weeks), so I can see why some people might be upset if you use miscarriage in place of chemical.
Do whatever feels best for you! If saying miscarriage validates your feelings more than chemical, than feel free to use that term.

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You should always include it it might make you feel weird because you're not sure where it fits in but it happened and your doctor should be aware of it

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I had a chemical. Any way you look at it, it was a lost. Something was there then it wasn’t. I gave myself time to be sad because even in that short time I had grown attached to and fell in love with my little clump of cells. So don’t let anyone tell u how to feel. It makes some people feel better to not think of it as a miscarriage but it’s a loss of pregnancy too.

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