Okay so I really tried to summarize this best I could but it’s still pretty long I’m sorry!! 😅

So basically my fiancé’s dad got evicted from his house about a month ago. I’m not 100% sure the reason he wasn’t paying his rent (in a bit I’m going to explain a situation he got himself into that I think led to him being fired from his job but not 100% sure) So once he got his eviction notice he told my fiancé we could have any of the furniture we wanted or anything in the house because he was just going to leave town.

Mini backstory: My fiancé and his dad have a pretty distanced relationship because when my fiancé was 8 his dad left and they didn’t try to reconnect until my fiancé was 19. During his childhood he lived in Texas and his dad lived in Kansas. When my fiancé turned 19 he moved here to try to work on his relationship with his dad and because Kansas is a lot calmer than the area he lived at in texas. So hearing that his dad was leaving town wasn’t a huge shock or disappointment for him.

anyways, we thought this was awesome because we’ve really been searching for good deals on new furniture. So the day before he had to have everything out of the house he asked if he could stay with us for a day or two and then once we had the furniture moved over and he knew things were set he was going to leave. We agreed to that and all was good. So he had called one of his friends and asked him if he could bring his trailer and help us move all the furniture to our house in one trip the next day since we live 30 mins away. The friend agreed and we got everything moved over and all was good. During this time (my fiancé’s dad didn’t come with us) his friend said something along the lines of “so jason said he’s going to be staying with you guys for awhile?” My fiancé and I weren’t told this so we didn’t really know what to say. At this moment I started wondering if he was just telling us a day or two and then planning on making some excuse to stay longer because he really didn’t have things figured out like he told us but my fiancé said “no my dad wouldn’t do that he would’ve told me if he was needing to stay longer” So I thought it was weird he would lie to his best friend about his plans but tried not to think too hard on it.

Almost a week passes by and I decide to ask my fiancé if he knows what his dads plans are. He asks and his dad said he had planned to leave but it didn’t work out so if we want him to leave he would just go stay in his truck until he found somewhere to go. I’m not an asshole and going to make someone stay in their truck during the winter so I said he could have another week to figure something out. And as I suspected, SAME THING HAPPENED FOR 3 MORE WEEKS.

So now he’s been here a few days over a month. Today I decided to text him while I was working and politely asked how much longer he was planning on staying. He literally just told me he wasn’t sure. That was it. I got pretty irritated because like he’s had a FREE month at our house and he’s telling me he still hasn’t figured anything out?? So I pointed out all the inconsistencies in his stories and told him I felt kinda taken advantage of and he basically ended up saying “I’m not going to argue or explain myself to you, life happens and I’ll be gone as soon as I can”. I only got involved in the first place because my fiancé has been asking for his plans every week but he doesn’t want to seem too straightforward and push his dad away and feel like a bad son for not helping him out. I get that so I decided why argue with him about his dad anymore when he already feels really bad about the whole situation since he didn’t plan this either and knows how uncomfortable I am but just wants to feel like a good son. I told him about the conversation I had with his dad and he got upset his dad would talk to me that way when I was just being honest and asking what was really going on. So he finally put his foot down and told his dad he needs to find a place to go by tomorrow and he’s glad we could help him as much as we could but we can’t anymore.

Normally I’m not this uptight about things but I’m 32 weeks pregnant. Having to go through the most uncomfortable, tiring, vulnerable, and emotional part of pregnancy with an extra person around that I never agreed to stay for this long and is a full grown adult not helping with bills or anything just watching me go through it all really isn’t how I wanted to spend my last weeks pregnant. Also, having to keep a bra on 24/7 and put pants on every time I want to leave my bedroom when I can barley even bend over to put them on anymore really sucks too.

So now I’m going to explain the situation that happened months ago before all of this went down. This really made me feel differently about him and not want to be around him but I try not to judge until I see evidence. My fiancé has a 13 year old sister on his dads side that lived with him. This little girl was best friends with one of my younger cousins who was also 13. Apparently Jason (my fiancé’s dad) texted my cousin saying some really inappropriate things like “you should come over when Kenzie isn’t here” and mentioned being naked I guess. So my younger cousin waited a few days and then still felt uncomfortable about it and told her mom, my older cousin. Her mom then contacted the police to press charges. Apparently he sent this same stuff to another of Kenzie’s friends but her parents talked to him personally instead of pressing charges I believe but not sure. I don’t know the full extent of everything because my older cousin didn’t go too into detail on it and he of course isn’t going to tell us what happened. He told my fiancé that my younger cousin messaged him first asking to come over and he replied saying she couldn’t because Kenzie wasn’t home and that was the end of it. I highly doubt that’s true because if it was why would there be a whole court case against him now?? So I believe that situation got him fired from his job, made the cops start watching him, and was the main reason he was so ready to just up and leave. Plus The cops in our town already don’t like him because of his past record with DUI’s.

Kenzie (his 13 yo daughter) was removed from his care a few weeks after this incident because he had accidentally left a camera out and she thought he might be recording her so she called the cops. I’m not sure if he was trying to record her or not because he had gone out of town that weekend and she was with my fiancé and I for the weekend and we just happened to take her home alittle early which he had no idea about. So in his mind she wasn’t going to be home at all which is the reason I don’t think he was trying to record her but it’s hard to tell.

Anyways I’m just really over this whole situation at this point and want my house back but I just need to know if I’m crazy and selfish for being so frustrated about this? Should I try to be more understanding?