21 weeks and 2 days today and feeling great!

Just curious how others are dealing with judgements from older women who have already been through motherhood..

I've been trying to be more aware of what I'm eating (asking if there are raw eggs in the Caesar salad dressing/ not eating cold deli meats etc) and have been getting lots of comments from older women in my life saying "well none of us or our children ever died from that".

I know I can only control myself and my baby but it is quite upsetting having other women making you feel stupid for trying to have the healthiest baby you can.

Any tips on how to deal with these people