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You need to find a way to leave. Rather that be finding a roommate yourself, finding someone else who needs a roomate, getting a tiny apartment, borrowing money from family to go back home, whatever. If his vehicles are in your name, I'd be selling them. I'd be removing my name from all the bills I could. I'd be coming up with a plan to get myself in order and leave. Don't think of excuses not to leave- thing of ways that you CAN leave. There's always an option
Cheaters- help needed.
My "Fiancè" who I have Been with for 5 years continues to step out on me. Granted we dont have alot of sex because im the one ALWAYS working over time & just too tired to even cook when I get home. He does have issues with depression & anxiety... But its no excuse to cheat. Hes done this over emails, craigslist, kik & other trashy sites. Hes messaged women, & men- recieving/sending pictures & dirty messages. I moved across 3 states with this guy just a year ago, when i knew he had stepped out before... I still moved anyways thinking shit would be different. & well karma has really done me dirty. Ive signed on vehicles for him that are more expensive than my own, taken out a shit ton of credit, & most bills are in my name. I havemt trusted him since the first time which is why i dont open myself to Sex with him 24/7. I dont feel enough. When i caught him this last time he tried to hide it again & refused to log back into his kik. Unfortunately I am in my early 20s & have no way to get back home unless i sign another lease with some one to save up & go home. Issue being-- i only know him here & only trust him to come up with rent versus the people I've met here...
Caught in such a hard place & really just meed some one to talk to.
Im being that stupid girl & signing another lease because i dont have much choice but I do love him & dont want to be the crazy girlfriend who has all your passwords. But he has pushed me to the point of going there if we sign another lease.
He also wants to do counsuling which i think is absolutely pointless because at this point i just resent being dumb enough to love him still.
He said the last time he cheated 20% was just resentment towards me.
No hes never actually met anyone in person or done anything physical because I have caught it before that point... But that hurts worse.
I have been completely loyal & he made me feel like shit after I let him go through MY phone also when HES the one who cheated!! & go figure he found nothing but friendly conversations with my friends including the males! Even with an ex who slid in my DMs- yeah i knew what that was & still replied to him because he has a girl hes Been with just as long... But i know he cheats on her for a fact. & i still stayed in my lane knowing he obviously hit me up for a reason!
Also found he has content locks on his phone & uses fake emails to do this shit with.
Tired of being lied to, using depression as a scapegoat when he has made me beyond depressed with this shit.
Really screwed & cant wait to get home.
Please send reinforcements ladies. I need yall
At this point I am just looking into the skies for help & sanity.
Mountain drives & hikes help.
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You are so much better then this and you deserve more than he could ever give you. Emotional cheating is still cheating. It cuts just as deep. What you decide is right for you, whether it’s tossing him out or staying with him, is a choice only you can make. If you decide you no longer want to be with him maybe sit down with him and talk about the living situation and finances. Stay “roommates “ until you have the opportunity to get out on your own. Transfer the car into his name and remove yours completely. I would make sure there were very clear rules though, like no other partners in the apartment etc. If you decide to stay, make sure you protect your future self. Put some money aside each paycheck even if it’s only $5 so you have a fallback if you need it. Don’t sign with him for anything else until you are 1000% sure he can be trusted. Let him know very clearly that you are aware of all of his tricks and they won’t be tolerated any longer. Talk about his actions and what needs to change (on both sides) for the relationship to work. I went through something very similar with a long term relationship. Every time I caught him after he promised it would “never happen again” was another slap in the face. He always found a way to some how make me feel sorry for him and that I was in the wrong.Eventually he did end up getting physical with someone else and I wish I had been more prepared.. You are strong either way. Always put yourself first because you are what matters most. ❤️ sorry for the literal book but your story hits home.
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