Is it a thing for a guy not to clean up? I feel like a fucking maid. My neighbor who is an older woman told me yesterday that its in the nature of a man NOT to clean up. They operate differently than we do. Some men may clean but very few. And that its normal. Is this something i should "get over". Like GOD damn! I mean its messy beyond measures and its habitual for him.

Should i bargain with him? I have a low libido right now and his is high. Should i give him incentive to clean? He always wants it, i hardly do because id rather be doing an actual activity or outing. Should i use sex?

This is my BD of 4 1/2 years