The drama.. Damn

To give you a short notion of what's going on:

-bio mom's taking away the kids from us because my husband won't give her money she doesn't have right to.

-my husband keeping the money from her because he wants the arrangement to be official so she can't take away the kids. (arrangement was made based on "oh we should just trust eachother" because she always planned on taking them away after she got what she wanted, 30k€ for the house, which she would have had right to if she'd sold the house 5 years ago, she's not selling the house and she actually arranged to have it on her and her new boyfriends name, because of that she does no longer have right to that money)

-bio mom threathening the kids to take away stuff (hobby's, pocket money, friends time,...) if they want to keep seeing us

-bio mom also convinced them we won't love them or care for them anymore once our baby is born (absolute bullshit obviously)

-also bio mom providing no structure for the kids, allowing them to eat candy and ice-cream all day, breakfast is out of the question, dinner is optional, screen time unlimited and they smoke in the house

-we help with homework, we provide rules and structure, there's limited screen time a steady bedtime and a decent breakfast every day, my husband smokes outside and I don't smoke at all.

In the middle: 3 kids being manipulated, lied to, live their lives confused.

Me.. Scared of losing the kids I've come to love like they were my own.