I’m 20 and my partner is in his 20s as well, we found out I’m pregnant 3 days ago and since we has talked about what we would do in a situation like this before we both started talking about abortion. Even in these 3 days of knowing I have this pregnancy I feel connected to it and I don’t know if I’m going to be okay getting this abortion. I’m so afraid I’ll regret it for the rest of my life. Ultimately I know this is my decision to make and my partner is giving me the space to make the decision that is right for me but Its also his life and he made the decision for himself that he’s not having children a long time ago. I know we can’t provide this potential child the best life as were both very young, not financially or honestly that emotionally stable. I brought up adoption but that process is so hard for many people (for the people who are adopted I mean) feelings of being unwanted, unvalued, and rejected are persistent in some of the lives of adopted folks all the way through adulthood. Of course not every adopted person has that experience but its not uncommon and I can’t predict or protect them from anything post adoption, ultimately its out of my hands even in an open adoption. I guess I’m just asking if its fair to put both of our lives, goals and values on hold because of our negligence to practice safer sex methods and also bring life into the world that could potentially be full of trauma, depression, anxiety, and generally a low quality of life all because I feel connected to the pregnancy. Is my acceptance of enduring what feels like the death of my child my responsibility to mitigate the harm to this potential life.

I am pro-choice and 100% support the option for abortion, these are just my thoughts and feelings