Hi all

So my husband and I have been married for almost a year now and we just found out we’re pregnant with our first child, he previously has a child that is 20 years old (had her when he was a teen).

Long story short we wanted to tell her in a cute way so we got her a shirt and matching onsie for the baby.

She saw on his amazon account and asked him if we were pregnant he avoided the question and went out with normal convo with her,

She came home from school and we were alone for 15 minutes waiting for my husband to come home from work and WOW shit went BAD.

She asked if I was pregnant and I avoided the question because my husband was very admit about us being together telling her.

So she kept asking and finally I said someone close to you is pregnant but I cannot say so please do not ask me again but instead of being calm she got into my face screaming saying “who the fuck is pregnant” “fucking tell me whose pregnant” and I calmly said please stop yelling there are kids upstairs sleeping (we live in an apt building)

Then she keeps screaming and following me getting into my face saying “if you are fucking pregnant and lying to my face I will never talk to you again” and I said ok well this is something you need to wait until your dad gets here.

I stepped outside to get away from her screaming cause I was on the verge of crying and she followed screaming at me asking repeating if I didn’t tell her right now that she’ll never forgive me and never talk to me again. So I did not tell her, the neighbors came down outside to make sure everything was ok cause she indeed woke up the kids and that’s when she got embarrassed and went inside.

My husband shortly got home i walked in with him and we handed her the sweet gift we wanted to give her and she wouldn’t even look in my direction. She opened it threw the box and started telling us how we’re both liers and how she doesn’t know how to feel about this and that she couldn’t believe we would have a baby following her grandfathers death which I explained it wasn’t planned.

She then went into saying how she was more excited and happy for the day we got married vs she will never be happy for a baby to come and wants nothing to do with it.

She then said 100 other negative comments while my husband was in shock and disbelief honestly looked like he was about to cry and then she left to go to her moms.

I’m more upset over the fact she’s a grown women 20 years old getting in my face... she didn’t ask one questions about the pregnancy made it all about herself which she has a tendency to do. She didn’t care about anyone except herself.

She acted this way when her mom had her two brothers Supposably left her mothers for 2 months and came back when she was ready.

I don’t support this attitude nor am I okay with being disrespected to that extent of someone getting into my face screaming.

I understand we “lied” to her but we wanted to make it a special moment for her as well... we COULD have just called her while she was away at school but we wanted to make it a speicial moment and obv this means nothing to her.

I’m just at a loss, at this point I don’t even want to have a relationship with her let alone be near her during these next 7 months of crazy hormones and emotions. She flat out said she doesn’t give a shit about my baby soooooo ya

I cried myself to sleep my husband held me and supported my anger as he was just as hurt and angry. I just felt so bad for my baby in side me that already someone hates them and doesn’t want them to be here.

I just need advice on what my next steps should be when she decides to warm up to a baby... because I will not allow her to ever talk to me like that again. If I spoke that way to my mother or any adult I would have probably been slapped so I was raised to respect others and not get in their faces and let emotions control you.

I just truely never want to be in that situation ever again.