Sex nagging

Danielle

My husband and I have a 16 month old who is extremely needy and demanding of my time. The baby hardly sleeps, I’m exhausted. My husband and I constantly have the same argument everyday. I have a low sex drive and he has a high sex drive. My husband wants sex all the time and I don’t. I feel harassed 24/7 for sex. He makes sexual comments constantly, sulks and can’t touch me without it being a sexual advance. Somedays I feel like Im just a sex object and not someone he loves. He never can just give me a kiss or snuggle with me without him trying to take it to the next level. We don’t have sex as often as he would like but we usually have sex about once a week. I know it should be more but I’m burned out from working full time and being a mom. The house is constantly a mess because he doesn’t help unless I ask or get mad about doing everything. When I ask for help he acts like a child and heavy sighs like I’m inconveniencing him and he gets annoyed that he has to clean as mess he helped make. I’m never in the mood for sex because I feel like there are a million other things I need to take care. Our son is constantly wanting my attention and needs to be held all the time. I’m physically taped out from being touched. I work with toddlers all day as well. My husbands inability to show me love without the expectation of it being sexual pushes me away from him to the point I don’t even want to walk near him because i know it will turn into a sex fight. I’ve tried having sex with him more frequently to see if it will help with his constant need but it doesn’t. A few hours after having sex he is right back at it. I feel so unappreciated for everything I do for our family. My love tank is so empty. He constantly says I’m mean and selfish if I won’t allow him to touch me in sexual ways. I have tried talking with him explaining that he makes me feel like a sex object. I have told him I need more help around the house. I have told him that I need more acknowledgment for everything I do instead of just feeling like He expects me to take care of everything. I love him so much and deep down he is a great guy but I’m at a loss. I don’t want to break up but I also don’t want to cringe every time he comes near me because I know a kiss isn’t just a kiss it’s him wanting more. I just want affection and love without it always needing to be more 😢.