My boyfriend and I are both 17. Like most people our age we're just experimenting with sex and figuring out what we like. I like to be dominated and roughly handled so that's what he does for me. I drove to meet him in his dorm earlier. You're probably gonna be thinking why I didn't text him for this conversation im about to talk about but I felt like it needed to be done in person. We sat on his bed and I asked him how he would feel if I took control sometimes. He asked me if it's weird to let a girl be the dominant one and I said I don't think so maybe it's socially weird but it's something that I wanna try. He started to look around uncomfortably. The reason I went to him in person and why he got uncomfortable is because he was repeatedly taken advantage of by his older sister. He was 8 and she was 13. He's never recovered. He doesn't go to any family reunions, he doesn't speak to her or wish her happy birthday, he's not going to her college graduation. I showed him a picture of these handcuffs I wanted to order and a blindfold. He nodded and said okay I'll let you. After that we just watched Disney + but now I feel like he said okay just to make me comfortable. I'm feeling like maybe I shouldn't even if he said yes.