So i’ve had a couple of issues with fmil since i got pregnant and then after my dd (dear daughter) was born. Our latest issue was on the 18th because she had previously said that dd (dear daughter) was going to have bf and i because we don’t want her watching tv at all times and that we were keeping her away from everyone(ils live 10 mins away never asked to see dd). On the 18th we had a bil diaper party at night my dd (dear daughter) was sleeping i caught bf dads trying to wake her up. I went in the room and said “do not wake my daughter up “ later mil (mother-in-law) says to me and bf infront of everyone so now ur dad can’t see his granddaughter. When they were leaving mil (mother-in-law) said she had to talk to me i said about what we can talk right now . So i tried to address my issues(ik boyfriend wouldnt do it hes a mammas boy) she then played victim and started crying saying that she loves her son and granddaughter but won’t be seeing them for a while. The next day she continues to lie and play victim saying i said I didn’t want them to hold my baby and that im keeping their ground daughter from them that i raised my voice and put my hands in her face. Luckily bf didn’t believe her but I honestly don’t know if he defended me. She took it upon herself to buy my dd (dear daughter) her first valentines day outfit(i had already brought an outfit and told bf that I’ll be doing all holiday shopping and first everything as it’s sentimental to me) she texted me letting me know she had brought clothes all i said was thank you she then says she loves getting our baby clothes, I completely ignored that message it bothered me but i chose not to say anything to bf . I have not seen any of them since the 18th boyfriend has on his own time, now yesterday they called to demand me and bf to show up to dinner tomorrow late night . Now my bf works an hour away from home without traffic. My dd (dear daughter) has a sleeping routine she’s usually down by 7:30-8 bf knows this . Yesterday he said we have to go to dinner tomorrow, i told him you know dd (dear daughter) has a sleeping schedule when we went out for my birthday we did it on a weekend so it wouldn’t interfere with her schedule. Boyfriend doesn’t think a sleeping schedule is important and tries to push it. Other thing they didn’t ask if we could make it they just demand us there . If they want to see dd (dear daughter) it should be around something that works her schedule not theirs . I dont know how to explain to him that he’s more than welcome to go to the dinner but me and dd (dear daughter) will be staying home without causing a big argument