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This is very similar to my situation. I love cards and always keep them. Only true card lovers understand. My husband is the same. I just remind him the day before that I want a card and he usually gets me one. I shouldn’t have to but he is the love of my life so I accept him and all of his lack of spontaneity. He makes up for it in other ways. Hope this mutual understanding helps xx
Am i overreacting?
Should it bother me that my husband doesnt by me a card for my birthday, valentines day or even a mothers day card from my daughter. Not fussed about gifts but ive always loved the thought of recieving a card cus it shows they care. I always buy him a card and bake him a cake on his bday but he litteraly does nothing. We will go out for a meal and he thinks of that as a reasonable gift type of thing. But we go out for dinner and get takeaways often enough anyway. Sometimes i think maybe its because i dont do enough as a wife. But think i definitely do. House is always clean when he comes home from work and dinner is always made for him. I do all of the housework which i dont mind as he works full time. Im home most of the time anyway. I also work and also study too. He does his fair share though. My birthday was recent and i had no card from him or my daughter shes only 4 so he needs to buy it. He just says he didnt get time. But they sell cards everywhere. You can litteraly buy one from the local shop. Some people might say its no big deal but it just bothers me so much. Is it a big deal or am i overreacting?
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Have you ever actually had a conversation with him about what your expectations are for him for holidays? If not you need to just have a nice conversation with him about things that he does that you like and what else you would like. Ask him what he would like. Talk about spending limits. Asking about what he wants too makes it about the two of you and not an all out attack on him which is discouraging. Men are clueless about what we want. You have to set expectations beforehand and you have to be direct. They don’t pay close attention to subtle hints or any of that pussyfoot around shit.
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