I started seeing this guy from my job . We’ve been seeing each other for a month and half( we do not work for the same company but work at the same site) everything was great. We talked all the time hung out frequently and seen each other at work a lot. But one weekend it kind of changed, he had a death in the family. This person passed away suddenly with unknown cause of death .He is taking this really hard and I have been trying to be there for his as much as he is allowing me to be there for him. We don’t speak as much, we don’t see each other at work any more or when we get off!! I’ve tried not to take it personal. But who wouldn’t, I just got to the point where I stopped reaching out to him cause he wouldn’t even respond to me. Every one needs some time to themselves to regroup and get back to program. What makes things even more confusing he calls me and ask why I have been so distant and I explain to him I felt like he needed some time to himself with out someone bothering him about hanging out or going out etc. and he said it was better then nothing and he was saying he missed me etc and to come over after work. I get off and he doesn’t answer and hours later like next day 1am he text saying sorry and he was passed out drunk!! He stated he’s been heavily drinking for days and he isn’t in a good place..

I know everyone deals with stress and losses in there own way.

I push myself daily to get out of bed an make it through anxiety, stress and depression. I’m losing someone who watched me grow up my whole life, I’m not able to say good bye because she can not face anyone to see her in her condition.

I’m on the verge of just parting ways with this guy because it seems like it s not going any where. I feel like it’s just an excuse. Maybe he is seeing someone else and isn’t telling me.

I know I sound like a bitch but at some point in time some one is going to need someone to lean on for support and with all my shit I’m still offering that support.

Should I just move along and forget him or wait and see

Since I last posted we spoke and he said I didn’t do anything wrong . he’s been drinking and sleeping and in his zone for work!! I really feel like this is a lame ass excuse for a grown ass man!! He did say we will get together after this weekend since he has his kids this weekend!! 🙄