Heres some back story

My boyfriend, baby and I live with his grandmother, along with his parent and step parent and 4 other kids. His stepmother is going around saying he doesn't take care of our kid while I'm at work. Saying that the baby doesn't like him, says he doesn't change his diaper and doesn't feed him. But all of that happens. Hes 3 months old and has had 2 rashes and rsv at 2mo. Hes the exact weight hes supposed to be. This kid smiles every time he sees his dad.

His dad who is home all day does nothing. Sits in his room all day.

I work, my boyfriend stays home with our baby.

But shes also saying we don't do anything around the house. But for 2 weeks we cleaned daily and every time their kids got home 20 minutes later and everything was a disaster. Then she would come home and say no one does anything. But their youngest kid is 12 turning 13 and the oldest is 17 turning 18. Is it wrong to think that they should be the ones cleaning up after themselves. Is it wrong not to clean up after them. I'm not talking about just a little amount of trash dishes or clothes. I cleaned one morning and by evening there was 4 yogurt containers in one spot, 6 cups and 4 different spoons, a Walmart salad trash and a pile of clothes by morning by one kid. The other one stays in his room because he can't stand his parents. The younger two stay in his grandmother's room and there is always trashcans knocked over and trash everywhere and her bedding is all over the floor and cups under her bed silverware under the bed, dressers and desk.

Yes I was being passive aggressive, and yes I do it so I can calm down. But its not working this time. You need to quit taking shit about koreys parenting. It is not your place. Ive heard too many Times that korey doesn't properly take care of our child and that somebody doesn't think he likes his dad. That baby loves him to fucking death. I don't think its fair that when we first started this you can tell me that am talking shit and that I need to stop but , in turn you are allowed to talk shit and make comments about his parenting, I don't make comments about your parenting, my honest opinion is that you are biased, and you choose favorites. I just want it all to stop at this point I feel comfortable with having my child just because of this, who knows what you tell my baby about me and him. Also are you going to try to take him from me. So let's both of us be adults because no one here is making any easier with all of us in this house. It's not fair for grandma and its not fair to any of our kids, and its definitely not fair to the adults here. Who wants to do something so after 10 minutes of your kids being home it's a disaster again or for people to go around and on the days people do do something to hear people going around and saying nothing was done.

So is this completely wrong to send this to his stepmother who is causing all the problems. I can't take it anymore shes asking me what's wrong and that's literally my problem. Shes also accusing us of making food for ourselves but no one else. But when we ever tried we were always told no they don't want any. So we stopped making food for them an ourselves.

It is his grandmothers house. She wants us here we help her take care of herself before his grandpa died. After he died they moved in because they didn't think that we could take care of her.

Suggestions on making it better would be appreciated