Hi mamas! I’m a bed-sharing mama who has tried many gentle approaches to getting baby to sleep in her crib but it’s simply not working. She’s 11 months now so I decided to be a little more open to CIO.

Last night I said I’d try CIO but checked on her every 10-15 mins at first or if her cry was very intense, I’d go in for a minute, try to lay her down and tell her I love her, good night and leave again.

At one point she got silent and 30 mins later cried again, turns out she pooped so I changed her diaper and started all over again. She went quiet for another little bit and I was finally ready to sleep so I went to check in and see if she was laying down. I found her sleeping holding the rails, sitting up 😢 hubby and I tried putting her to lay down but that ultimately upset her more so we left again and she cried for a minute or two and stopped for a couple of hours this time, still sleeping sitting. I went and comforted her a bit and went back to sleep. Only 30 minutes later she was awake again and refused to sleep so I tried everything, even standing by and patting her tummy while she laid down, but she would keep waking the second she fell asleep. I decided to help her sleep in my arm and put her down in the crib but she woke right away. After a long battle, I decided to give up at 5am and put her in bed but I didn’t let her cuddle me, i even turned my back to her and she slept on her side the whole time.

what did you guys do when baby woke during the night? I know she’s not hungry because she doesn’t eat during the night anymore, she wakes only for cuddles or a paci. Also, what did your first few tries look like?

Thank you for taking the time to read, I’m feeling heartbroken that I have to let her CIO but I feel it’s ultimately best for her, especially since we have another baby on the way.