Hurting someone back

3 years ago when I got pregnant with my fiancé and I’s first he bolted and left me for 2 1/2 weeks and messed around with another girl during that time.

He came back once he got his head together and said there was no sex and they were just friends and hanging out (I don’t know if that’s true, I’m 50/50 on it) He’s apologized and explained to me over and over..

The thing is .. 3 years later I still hurt. Some days I don’t but some days it comes to mind all the sudden and it still hurts. I try to put it behind us but it continues to eat at me .. so much I have nasty thoughts about getting him back

I won’t. I know it would do more harm than good. But sometimes .. I just want him to hurt like I hurt .. I know that’s not fair but it’s true 😔

If you’ve ever been cheated on or left and gotten back together after some time how do you cope? How do you mentally put it behind you?

I don’t mean to sound awful .. today’s just one of those days where I hurt from it badly