I’m 19, my boyfriend is 20. This is our 3rd Valentine’s Day together...and nothing.

I’m not the type that wants presents or anything, in fairness it’s a Hallmark holiday. But for me, it’s the thought that counts. Acts of service. And as a young person it’s very hard to have nothing done for you when you see everyone else out and about having something special done for them.

I woke up and he was sick, I tucked him up on the couch, made him tea and breakfast, and his dog was annoying him to I took her on a walk. And on that walk I kind of realised...when does he return the favour? I mean, for my birthday in December I didn’t even get anything. And with his in 2 days, I don’t want to get him anything out of pure spite.

It’s not like he doesn’t know I want something small and cute for Valentine’s, last year I got a little upset and he apologised and told me he’d do it next year.

While on my walk these were the texts...I was pretty agitated in the morning because of the inattention.

As I walked back to his he drove past, obviously in a flurry to get me something before I got back. But I had already bought myself a rose on my run 💁🏼‍♀️

He got home and honestly I was very upset. I cried a lot. I said my piece about acts of service being an important part of a relationship. He was upset too, mostly at himself. He had bought me flowers and chocolate...but what’s the point if I basically had to ask him to get it?

I had my moment, then we had a bath and watched a movie. Nothing sexual, I didn’t feel like it. Then...he put on his PlayStation for an hour until I had to leave for work. Didn’t say a word to me. I got pretty grumpy again and just gathered my stuff ready to leave for work.

He noticed I was a bit annoyed and he said he’d take me to a movie and dinner tomorrow night but again...I don’t see the point? It’s because he feels bad he feels obligated to do that for me. I shouldn’t have to ask to feel special or have nice small things done for me.

Part of me feels so horrible for being dramatic over one day, but it’s also kind of a build up of me NEVER having anything done for me.

Idk, let me know what you guys think