I will love advice if it isn't divorce or counseling related. (Already tried the counseling thing. He won't go.) My husband told me tonight that he will only "do house work when he feels like it".

After I got home from work I played with our toddler, then I made dinner while simultaneously keeping our toddler occupied while my husband played video games. After dinner I put the food away, cleared the table, wiped the counters, and put the dishes in the dishwasher. My son asked to take a bath and I asked my husband if he wanted to come with just to hang out. He asked if he had to and I told him no, but I would appreciate if he could do the hand wash dishes while I did bath time.

He didn't do them. He went back to playing video games. I tried to tell him that I would appreciate his help more and yeah I probably came off bitchy but this is not the first time we've had this discussion. He told me the he doesn't want to clean, it isn't important to him, and he will only do it when he wants. He pulled the same shit over the summer too when I asked for help with yard work.

We cannot afford a yard or cleaning service.

So I think what I'm going to do is just not clean anymore? If we run out of dishes I will handwash enough to cook and serve me and our son with. We have a guest room which is my home office so that will stay clean and my son's room and the bathroom I share with our son, but his computer room, our bedroom, his bathroom, the dining room, living room, kitchen...nope not gonna do those any more. I will do mine and my son's laundry too.

I'm hoping this might motivate him and not backfire horribly in my face but I'm at a loss. If he isn't open to talking about it or helping me I feel like all I can do is care less?