My husband has a step father and step grandparents (he calls them grandma, grandpa and dad) now when his mom and his step dad had children of their own my husband had always knew he was “the other family”. This is something he’s told me (I noticed it before he even mentioned anything to me) so my husband comes completely last with his parents. Which is perfectly fine he’s a grown adult who does not need to be babied.

Anyways, his grandma sends cards ALL year long to us (she lives states away). I’m not joking she’s sent our kids Halloween cards. Today my son (who’s 9) and I were checking our mail and the ONLY mail we received today were 3 red envelopes which happened to be cards from my husbands grandma. Walking inside my son turns the cards over and notices that he and I did not get a cards. One for my husband, one for each of his sisters (11&1). The look of disappointment on his face broke my heart. He just stayed quiet and handed his older sister her card and started his homework. My daughter opened her and then asked him about what his card says and looks like (completely unaware he didn’t receive one) and so he told her he didnt have one and once again I could tell he was hurt. Not because he LOVES Valentine’s Day but because he wasn’t included.

For the record I looked at the envelopes and there was one card addressed to my husband AND I. So he was completely left out today. However, I am still holding onto hope that a card will show up tomorrow.

My question is how do we tell his grandma to please stop sending cards if the children are not all being included? I don’t want to offend anyone or get anyone upset but I will absolutely not tolerate any of my children not being included and will stand up for them.

Thanks in advance.