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You are going to have to not give in just because he is throwing a tantrum . He doesn’t get a b or c till he at least attempts to say it . you will have to go threw some meltdowns and tantrums because you have already showed him that you will give him what he wants if he does this .
What am I supposed to do now?
Every article that I have read has informed me that I need to try and get my 2.5 year old son to at least attempt (if not say) what he wants when pointing to something, for example, if he points to the toy car on the bench top, try and get him to elaborate on what he wants, instead of pointing and throwing a tantrum when I don’t understand.
The problem is, when he doesn’t want to do something, he won’t do it. If he doesn’t want to try and say what he wants, he won’t, and he’ll throw the biggest tantrum until I give in and just give it to him.
What would you do? I’m sick of yelling, frustration, time outs, and smacks (on the hand. I don’t want your judgement or opinion on that, please. Focus on the topic at hand!)
Thanks.
Edit: Thank you to anon for your response. Unfortunately, I have tried that too, but he just starts eating with his hands - he couldn’t care less if he’s got utensils. Haha. 😅
Edit 2: I see how it could have come across like it, but I don’t hit my son because he doesn’t speak. I give him a smack when he throws a tantrum and starts throwing things or hitting people. He does have a speech delay.
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It encourages them to use their words. By you just playing investigation and trying to intuitively find out what he wants without making him speak isn’t gonna help him. It’s hindering him. For my son, what I do is I fix him lunch and I purposefully forget his drink and his silverware. That way he has to use his words. He was a late talker and this helps a lot. He will be 3 in May and if I forget something he will say “water mama”, or “mama, fork.” When we come down stairs for the day to make breakfast he lists what he wants. He says “waffle, berries, water, chocolate milk.” Whatever he wants that day. It’s improved his speech a lot. I also read and repeat a lot of stuff for him to catch on. He just learned that when I say I love you first, he has to reply with “I love you too, mama.” Instead of “I love you.” Practice helps even if it’s hard work.
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