Every article that I have read has informed me that I need to try and get my 2.5 year old son to at least attempt (if not say) what he wants when pointing to something, for example, if he points to the toy car on the bench top, try and get him to elaborate on what he wants, instead of pointing and throwing a tantrum when I don’t understand.

The problem is, when he doesn’t want to do something, he won’t do it. If he doesn’t want to try and say what he wants, he won’t, and he’ll throw the biggest tantrum until I give in and just give it to him.

What would you do? I’m sick of yelling, frustration, time outs, and smacks (on the hand. I don’t want your judgement or opinion on that, please. Focus on the topic at hand!)

Thanks.

Edit: Thank you to anon for your response. Unfortunately, I have tried that too, but he just starts eating with his hands - he couldn’t care less if he’s got utensils. Haha. 😅

Edit 2: I see how it could have come across like it, but I don’t hit my son because he doesn’t speak. I give him a smack when he throws a tantrum and starts throwing things or hitting people. He does have a speech delay.