Hey mamas! I’m 28 weeks with a healthy baby number 2, which I am thankful for every single second. With out first, we did a gender reveal at like 19 weeks. With our second, I really wanted to do a surprise at birth. We did

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, so we had to get additional scans including a fetal echo. At that scan, the cardiologist thought there might be a problem with the baby’s heart, so she asked us to schedule a follow up. We had the follow up last week and were given the amazingly wonderful news that the baby’s heart looks normal! Of course, we’re thrilled.

I just got a call from someone who works for the cardiologist since we didn’t have the follow up scan at her office, but, rather, at an MFM office. She wanted to make sure we’d had a follow up scan and that everything was ok. I told her as much and then she said, “Ok well... he—I mean the baby—shouldn’t need another scan but the pediatrician will check the baby after they’re born.” And I can’t unhear the “he” part. It was so anticlimactic and I’m pretty sure she just spoiled our gender surprise at birth. So I’m feeling bummed.

So happy baby is healthy... not trying to imply that I’m not... just bummed because we made it this far and I wanted my husband to announce it to me and now I feel like I don’t get that chance.

Can anyone relate or have any other thoughts? I guess I’m just looking for understanding and support.