Visitors at the hospital?

So I’ve seen a few post about this earlier on in all of our pregnancies. I didn’t even think about it at that time but now that our due date is coming around the corner, I need some advice.

My mother is very controlling and over bearing. She stresses me out with just her presence a lot of the time. I’ve made it very clear that it will be just my husband and I in the delivery room when I give birth. I have also made it clear that we will be accepting guest once we are home, and wish to not have visitors in the hospital as we want that time to recover and bond with our new baby.

My mother in law accepts our wishes and is so considerate of what we want.

My mother on the other hand, continues to talk about how she will be in the waiting room, and will come in to see us after birth. I explained to her time and time again that, I don’t not want visitors in the hospital. She has now started to question my decision. I told her that my husband and I have waited so long to have a baby, and that we want to bond with him on our own for the first day or so. I also explained that I will be recovering from birth, and will not be comfortable with visitors while I’m still in pain and not in my home environment.

My mother responded to this with “well do you really think we’re there to see you? You can sleep and recover, we’re there to hold and see the baby.”

I’ve expressed my wishes over and over, I’ve adamantly laid what I want out there to prepare her. Yet she just gets an attitude, rolls her eyes, and acts as if I don’t have a say in the matter. She’s beginning to start a drama about it, gossiping with other people about how “I won’t let her see her grand baby” and it’s starting to really stress me out.

How do you ladies handle a situation like this? How do you think I should go about this without causing more drama?