I moved out at 20 years old but I was still always going to my parents house to visit on my days off or after work at 3pm and I would stay there til 7 or 8. Eventually my job made me go to second shift so I work 3pm to 11:15pm so on my days off I’d still go there and hangout.. Eventually I got with my boyfriend, overtime we moved in together.. (My parents are very religious and old school when it comes to moving in) they were so appalled with me for moving in without getting married & for awhile they made me feel like shit for doing so & I felt so guilty they made me feel like I HAD TO marry this man.. I was so confused and filled with so much guilt within myself and my life because I felt like I was being forced to do something because that’s what THEY WANTED. I want marriage too but me and him have had our own talks about it and agreed that maybe one day in the future When we are BOTH ready and I am okay with that and completely and insanely in love and happy with our relationship as it is and if he decided to take the next step one day, then I will be ready! I refuse to pressure a man into it.. anyways.. I’m Almost 25 & many of my friends graduated and came back to town or sometimes I will visit out of town friends & hang out with the new friends I’ve made, etc.. my mom started working after not working for 2 years so my regular visits have become very short or we will go about 1 or 2 weeks without seeing eachother because she also works second shift like me & the way our days off line up are opposite, so I still try to catch them when I can on days off but it’s hard because I also make time for friends, my boyfriend, & other family members. My mom gets so offended when I leave early Bc I have plans with friends or cousins or my boyfriend.. And after I leave she will send me long paragraphs about how I put my friends before her now and that I’ve changed cuz I don’t go to their house like I used to or stay long when I do.. like she doesn’t realize how much our schedules changed or just our lives in general.. or just that she works now!! It’s hard and I’ve grown up more and have plans and a lot of the times I put in 16 hours at work (you know.. life gets busy) but she claims I don’t care and she will “joke” Joke EXAMPLE: we were at my cousins baby shower & I saw her walk in & I smiled, got up and put my arms out for a hug and she frowned her face and turned around and started saying hi to another table and giving them hugs.. so I was like 🥺🙄😒 I sat down and thought to myself “wow that was actually really mean” she purposely kept ignoring me for about 5 mins.. which is not like her at all. She eventually walked up and said she was joking and gave me a hug but I know she wasn’t “joking” cuz I just know my mom. She’s been guilting me for every little thing I do.. if I go out to the winery with a friend she will make me feel bad about it, if I go out for cousins bday she will make me feel bad about it.. if I go to a club.. im a bad person for “putting a club” before her ! Like WHAT!! Is my life supposed to revolve around her forever ? Am I supposed to live with guilt for every thing I do in my life???. It’s so bad I had to stop posting pics and stories on my Facebook or instagram because anytime I posted something that I was doing she will message me complaining. I feel so heartbroken, guilty and kinda hurt by this.. I’ve talked to her so many times, planned little dates for us or movie nights and it’s not good enough for her 😔