“Is your baby a dwarf?”

I cant sleep over this. I find it extremely arrogant and insensitive, because I’m angry- I don’t know how to go about it.

I was visiting with my brothers wife yesterday.

She asked me if my 9 week old has dwarfism. We’re in the living room, all of our other kids just got back from the park. Her friend and their kids were getting dropped off. I’m burping my son. She looks over and says, “Are his proportions right? Has his doctor checked him? He looks like a dwarf.””Is he a dwarf?”

I looked at him and ask her, “Where?” “What seems off?”

She ignored me!? There was so much chaos I didn’t want to get loud or stress it. She babysits two boys and comments on how small their penis size is.. she’s the type to think her opinion is extremely valid and is usually pretty arrogant about it. Biased..

Even if my baby has some form of dwarfism.. I wouldn’t be announcing it in a room full of chaos. I wouldn’t be running to her to explain it. Or thinking any differently about him. Besides any medical treatment or special care he’d need.. nothing would change..

It’s 3:50AM and all I can think of is sending her screenshots of the information I’ve been reading up on for the past hours. I never thought I’d be so informed about dwarfism! I learned a lot about it and I think she should too.

Anyway, I just feel like defending my baby. I feel like she was taking a jab at him. I’m under 5 feet tall. My kids are really petite. We have big heads and foreheads.. that’s usually something everyone jokes about. I’m the aunt everyone is taller than.. her 3 year old is almost as big as my 6 year old... she’s always mentioning it as if short people have no power and are flawed or weak.

I want to mention it and let her know how I feel about it. I’m hosting her baby shower and don’t want tension. But I am so angry about the way she went about it that I’m not in a clear state of mind. Advice on how to express myself effectively would be appreciated!

Here’s my Juju bee..

and Fern, i know i got you into this app. So if you read this post.. yes. This is for you.

❤️ your nephew..

Update. I sent her a message.

“Hey, I wanted to let you know that I found it extremely offensive when you said Julian looks like a dwarf. If you truly care about his health, you could have went about it in a different manor. I’d never point out your children’s flaws the way you did and I expect the same respect for my children.”

Her reply, “I don’t think he looks like a dwarf. He was in that little t-shirt and I didn’t mean it in a mean way. I’m sorry.”

So here’s him in that little t shirt that same day..

Idk but he looks like a big ass 9 week old to me 😂😳

I realized that she was just saying this to be rude. She tells my 40 year old sister she looks like a slut, every time she sees her. My sister wears PINK spandex and sweaters all the time.. she tells my mom to never wear certain things again. Or her hair looks bad. She told me I look like a Chinese prostitute because of my freaking house slippers!! I didn’t think she’d go as far as to making fun of my baby and she did. She wasn’t saying this to be serious. This was her being rude and making fun of my baby because we’re short and because we have big foreheads. Fucking bitch. I’m done

Final update- we called it quits. I accepted her apology but i felt like she only messaged again to know if I was still hosting her baby shower. If there was no baby shower, there wouldn’t have been any new apology text. You know? I offered to still send the food and drinks to the baby shower. I have the gifts Still. But she refused the food and drinks. She removed herself from our family group messaging, I haven’t talked to her or my brother since. I feel sad. I miss my brother and his kids but nothing is more important to me than my own kids and their mental health. I’m really hurt because I’ve grown to love this woman as my sister. I thought that motherly bond was mutual. I love her kids as my own. Anyway, my Juju and I are doing great!

Thank you to everyone who commented and voiced their opinion!