Adjusting to living in our own place

After living with his parents for a while, my husband and I finally got our own place! We are excited.

But my husband has relied so much on his parents for things. For borrowing their car, for their help with watching our child, for lending money... I want us to be able to take care of ourselves. He’s asked them for money when we had none and I get that we needed help.. but I was upset and told him we shouldn’t be overspending on things in the first place (when it comes to money I tend to be a saver and he’s the spender.)

We have a car of our own, and I’m now working two part time jobs while he stays to watch our child. He couldn’t wait to move into our own place, but now that we’ve moved he’s missed being able to have his parents right there to help out.

This morning he called his mom to ask if she wanted to go with him to the clinic with our child, because he’s showing signs of being sick. The clinic is a walk away from our place...

I just feel a little frustrated. It feels like he doesn’t want to do a lot apart from his family. He has his own family now and I’m not saying to cut them out, I’m just wanting him to understand he’s got a family to look after now.